Why Do People Fall Back into Homosexuality? Disappointment with God – 5 of 6

Why Do People Fall Back into Homosexuality? Disappointment with God – 5 of 6

John Freeman

This six-part series is also available on our website, and is on the print edition of our Winter Harvest News (just part one).  But we love to get comments, so feel free to read John’s posts over the next several days and give us your comments! 

A question that is asked here at Harvest USA is a common one.  “Why do people, Christians even, go back to a gay life after they have come for help?” It’s a legitimate question. For Christians who believe the historic Word, the Scriptures, and believe that faith in Christ makes one a “new creation,” the issue may seem confusing, but the answer must be honest and biblically-grounded.  Here is the 5th reason of 6 to explain what might be happening here, as we have seen some common denominators over the years in our ministry work.

PART FIVE

Disappointment with God

Demandingness and disappointment go hand-in-hand.  Disappointment with God is a natural consequence of demands not met.  Proverbs 13:12 says, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but desire fulfilled is a tree of life.”  How true this is.  That is why it is very important to know why we are following Christ.

Too many people come into Christianity because of what they want God to do for them.  On the one hand, it is important to realize that there are things only God can do for us.  Only he can make our hearts come alive to him (what the theologians call regeneration); only he can forgive and cancel the debt of sin we have incurred; only he can shape us to conform to his image and give us a changed character and a new direction for our lives; only he promises us to never to leave nor forsake us; only he can raise us from the dead and give us life everlasting.

On the other hand, we must realize that some of the deepest desires of our hearts may never be fulfilled.  A deep disappointment with God can occur when we place those desires (however unaware we may be of doing so) in a place of prominence in our lives. We are mistaken when we think that it is only bad desires that are sinful in our lives; sometimes even good desires can become so large and important in our lives that they take a place of centeredness in our hearts, and then we find ourselves living for them rather than for God. James 1:14 says, “But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire.”  James is using a Greek word, epithumia, which basically means “over desire,” or very strong desire.  These desires can be good but they can also be destructive if they are out of balance in one’s life (“I must have this in my life!”) or out of bounds (outside of God’s design).

Too often, even without realizing it, God can be viewed as a kind of spiritual Santa Claus.  All of us have a wish list miles long.  One must be sure of what the “desire fulfilled,” like in the Proverbs passage, is for them.  To think with a biblical world view of life, we need to acknowledge that we may not get everything we desire while on this earth.  We are left to live with longings and desires, many of which will not be fulfilled this side of the new heavens and the new earth.

There is nothing that exposes the real foundations of our faith as when we realize that we are deeply disappointed with what God has allowed to be, or not allowed to be, in our lives. It is one thing to submit to God in his withholding, grieving those things that we have wished for while trusting in his goodness for his specific plan in our life; it is another thing altogether to develop a deep disappointment with God, which will inevitably produce a cold and demanding heart.

It is easy to look at our disappointments in life and question whether or not God is really good; whether or not he knows what is best for us.  If we do not answer that question affirmatively, then we can find ourselves slipping into disobedience where, with our actions, we will make sure we will not be disappointed again.  Watch out for demandingness and deep disappointment!  They go together, and they mark the path of impending spiritual disaster.

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About The Author
John began his ministry with Harvest USA as a volunteer while in seminary. As President of the organization he champions the mission of Harvest USA. He has a deep burden to see those who struggle with pornography, homosexuality and other sexual addictions experience changed lives through Jesus Christ. John spends most of his time helping churches be equipped to better care for the hearts of individuals and families vulnerable to these struggles.

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